Better Relationships. Better Sex. Better Life.
2 Golds: NY Big Book Award, Men’s Health and Sexuality
Silver: Benjamin Franklin IBPA Award, Psychology
Silver: IPPY, Sexuality/Relationships
Finalist: INDIES Award, Family and Relationships
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You want to be a good man, but what does that even mean, when the definition of “good man” keeps changing? In today’s cultural environment, we’re getting caught between messages of abject misogyny from manosphere influencers or damaging self-hatred from news headlines like “What’s the Matter with Men?” Since 2017, you’ve likely seen stories from the #MeToo movement, and you’re horrified by the behaviors of the men in those stories. You may also be scared of doing or saying the wrong thing, because you’ve never received much guidance about how to navigate consent. You need a guide to be the better man you were always meant to be.
As a therapist committed to helping people live more meaningful, connected lives, I wrote The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex to offer much-needed tools for instruction, healing, and growth.
As a man, I have been through some of these challenges myself. I wrote this book to pass that knowledge on to other men, so you (and your partners) don’t have to suffer the same mistakes.
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If you’re a man who’s confused about consent, you aren’t alone. In the post #MeToo era, men know they need to get consent but don’t know how to ask for it. They may be afraid of doing the wrong thing, or worried about giving up hot sex.
In this practical guide to navigating sexual relationships with respect, I use my expertise as a sex-positive psychologist to teach men the skills to be better lovers, partners, and humans. The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex empowers men to embrace their sexuality, manage their emotions, and understand entitlement—and it explains how toxic masculinity harms men and ruins sex for them and their partners. Moreover, this skills-based guide, rooted in evidence-based techniques, shows men how to practice consent, not just on first dates but in all relationship situations and with all types of people, from romantic partners to acquaintances and coworkers.
Using everyday examples, The Better Man provides accurate, sex-positive information—along with confidence-boosting exercises and shame-busting drills—to help men learn how to ask for the passionate sex they want and listen well enough to deliver the pleasure a partner desires.
This book shows men how to:
- Learn evidence-based skills and strategies for practicing consent
- Understand that getting consent can be sexy
- Communicate more effectively in their relationships
- Heal their own wounds from patriarchy by taking responsibility for their own behavior
- Use principles of safety and health to pursue passionate sex
- Understand toxic masculinity while celebrating male sexuality and honoring diverse identities and lifestyles
“A refreshing vision for men to reimagine their role in relationships, their communities, and the world.”
―Joe Kort, Ph.D., LMSW, CST-S, author of Erotic Orientation
“This book really restores my faith in men.”
—Venus O’Hara, sexual wellness content creator and host of The Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast
“Finally! A book by a man, for men, about how to be a healthy sexual man! Dr. FitzMedrud offers an accessible, grounded guide to navigating the modern world of sexuality with consent, safety, and honesty. This book helps men learn how to be better men, without ever throwing men under the bus.”
—David Ley, Ph.D., author of Ethical Porn for Dicks
“A non-stop feast for men hungry to reconnect with their humanity. This warehouse of practical tools, exercises, activities, sample scripts, and essential words prepares men to take real steps toward knowing who they are and who they are not.”
—Doug Braun-Harvey, LMFT, CST-S, coauthor of Treating Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior
“This profound, potentially life-changing book takes a deep dive into what it means to be a man in today’s world…. I’d recommend The Better Man to any male client who wants to build stronger self-esteem and deeper relationships.”
―Stephanie Buehler, Psy.D., CST-S, author of What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know about Sex
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