I owe much of my success and personal well-being to the love and mentorship of queer people and community. So it is an honor to to be a queer-friendly therapist to give back to our community. I am comfortable with my own sexual diversities (bi/pan, poly, kinky) and am open about them with my family, friends, and clients.
Here are some of the identities that I serve well:
- Gay individuals and couples
- Bisexual folx
- Transgender people working on relationship and sexual satisfaction issues. I’m not the best therapist to support transition-related issues, only because I know you deserve a specialist for that, and I haven’t put in that work to make that a focus in my practice.
- Intersex
- Queer and questioning. I have experience working with people coming out late in life, hetero-married people still in the closet, and people trying to make sense of fantasies, porn viewing, or behavior that doesn’t quite fit in neat categories. I often find that people like how my lived experience of being bi gives me insight into their experience of being in both a heteronormative world, and have parts of themself in queer world, identity, or practice.
- Polyamory/Nonmonogamy I’ve helped many couples open up. The partner who is reluctant to open up often really appreciates how I take care of and address their concerns in the process. They also like that I place much of the onus for a smooth transition on the integrity of the more eager partner’s behavior. I’ve also helped a few triads and am open to supporting more-somes.
- Kinky
- Lesbian individuals or couples. I’ll admit I have less experience serving lesbians; no surprise, they often want to work with a woman. But I’ve found that when my specialties of relationship and sexual problems are the topic, I’m as effective with lesbians as I am with my other clients.
I am comfortable talking about sexuality in both its glorious and challenging aspects. I also recognize that though a client may have a sexually diverse identity or a sexually diverse expression (like kink or polyamory), the presenting issue may not be about sexual diversity at all. As a queer-friendly therapist, I can accept your identity and move on to help with your mental health needs.