Will AI Hurt or Improve Communication in Relationships?A Couples Therapist Reflects I am a therapist with 15 years of experience providing couples therapy to couples in Silicon Valley. In engineering terms, I’m an expert at human-to-human user interface: communication. Because I’ve been centered in Silicon Valley my whole career, I’m also familiar with how one…
Why Does Stress Affect Sexual Desire? The Flooded Mountain Range I work with many couples puzzled by changes in their sex lives. Sometimes they are not dramatic shifts like affairs or mismatched libidos. Sometimes, couples just experience confusing, slow declines in erotic connection. Couples now stick to routines, partners question why former turn-ons stopped working,…
Whole TL/DR: How does therapy help manage ADHD? By helping you manage diet, exercise, sleep, medication, structure, and with tools in the therapy itself. Contact Me. Though I didn’t set out to become an expert in ADHD, by default, I have ended up working with ADHD fairly often in my practice. This is because ADHD…
Men, Open Up! Eww, Not That Way! With some regularity in my practice, partners of men bring him into couple therapy with the complaint, “He’s emotionally closed off” or “I don’t know what’s going on inside of him.” This is usually paired with the request, “I’d like you to help him open up.” This makes…
Family Meeting to Maintain Household and Relationship Let’s face it, this life is complex. You’re probably spread too thin between work, eating, cleaning, laundry, bathing, exercise (if you even have time), and family. Even if you don’t have ADHD, it might feel like you’re constantly surfing from crisis to crisis and making more mistakes than…
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Does Mental Health Diagnosis Free You or Stigmatize You? I’m in a video therapy session with a new client, Emma. She’s crying. I’ve just shared the mental health diagnosis and treatment plan I wrote for her. It is hitting her hard. Did labeling her mental health contribute to stigma? Or does diagnosis help reduce suffering?…
Couples Coping with COVID-19 I’ve already heard couples complain: “I can’t believe we’ve only been quarantined for two days and I already can’t stand being with my partner.” “I’m glad that we’re together, but we’ve been so distant for so long that I’m not sure what this is going to be like.” “Either being quarantined…
Why He Watches Porn Instead of Having Sex It is a common complaint, and not just in heterosexual couples. I hear one partner complain that he watches porn when the partner wants to have sex. It can be hard to understand, so I decided to write a post to help people make sense of this…
This blog entry returns to my How Sexuality Works series which uses the metaphor of a river to help explain sexuality and eroticism. For prior posts in the series click the links below or skip below to read about sexual compatibility. Sexuality Is a River What is Erotic and Why? Part I What is Erotic…